NEGLECT

I find some of my friends after retirement engaged in certain activities just as they were engaged during their career. In one of the visits to my friends house my friend his wife and myself were discussing after lunch. My friend very happily informed that he is not finding any difference on post retirement as he regularly visits his native place which is nearer to Chennai once in two days and meet his relatives and also concentrating on the agricultural activities which he was unable to involve. During his service as an executing in our bank his relatives were looking into these activitis. His only son is very much engaged with his job and seldom comes out of his room looking only at the laptop. He will be reluctantly coming out to take his food after prolonged calls from his mother. The only soul in the house who cares for these persons and appears to have been not valued is my friends wife. When the discussion reached a point where everybody were talking about their commitment the lady informed that no body is considering her as a human being and seldom care for her emotions.She continued saying that her husband is busy with the new job role and the son is very busy in his own activities. She was expecting that after retirement she will be going around for some places of interest and also will be attending most of the social functions both in the family and in the society which she was deprived during the services of her husband. But since her husband is very busy after retirement he finds no time to engage her in her wish and also due to his age he becomes more tired when returning from the work. She in fact could not control her emotions and informed that she is regularly crying for her plight as both the persons in the house are not caring for her emotions. The friend was not at all aware of the feelings of his wife and had taken for granted all her actions as endorsement to his new life style also. His son of course may not be able to understand this as being a young man may be more concerned about this career and life. My friend was surprised on the revelation of his wife. He said it was an eye opener to him. He later informed me that he will have to take care of her and at least he should take her out once in a week and a tour outside once in one or two months. I was very happy on the decision of my friend. When I contacted my friend two months later for some other reason, casually I asked him what are the places he visited during the past two months, he smiled and said yes yes I have to take my wife out. Hope the lady is still neglected.

Every one has their own difficulties.

Everyone has their own difficulties. A week back I was walking in Brindawan street to reach my home. Suddenly the sound of two Strong Men made me turn and look at the auto rickshaw.The two thuds were pushing a fat elderly man into an auto rickshaw. The old man has drunk upto the neck. The thuds are instructing the auto driver to drop him at his residence which is not known to anybody. The auto driver was very reluctant to hear the instructions. However he is obliged to obey the same. The old man was not coherent in his remembering the address.The auto driver told some place after carefully hearing the description gave by the person.. At once he burst into laughter and said a kilo gram of sugar has to be put in the drivers mouth for correctly guessing his residence. The joy was short lived when once again the old man said a place which is diagonally opposite to the place mentioned by the auto driver. As the road is a very busy one and the auto cannot afford to stand more than 2-3 minutes, he started the vehicle only to stop at the end of the road.This time some loud sound from the auto driver to the occupant who refused to get down as he is entitled to be taken to his residence. All on a sudden a small crowd gathered and wanted to guess the place he wants to go. The auto driver was cursing his fate with this man inside. Finally one person in the crowd could identify this old man and said daily this is the practice of this man to reach his house by not paying any auto fare. I felt regretted for the auto rickshaw driver's plight. Whenever they carry people who had taken too much of drinks this is the problem. Once my car driver who was driving auto rickshaw earlier informed me of one incident. A decent person entered his auto. On the way he wanted to purchase some liquor. After purchasing the same he started drinking in the auto. By the time he reached his home he went straight to his house without settling the bill. Poor fellow went and pressed the calling bell of the house only to see a lady opening the door. She said the man is her husband and he had directly went to the bedroom and started sleeping. When the auto driver was demanding money she coolly replied that she cannanot pay anything as she is not aware from where he travelled and told him to come on the next day to collect the fare. He went on the next day only to be informed that the person had left to office and will come only in the evening. It took more than 2 days for him to collect the amount with much difficulty. Every profession has got its own difficulties.

Why this pretention On the other day, I was sitting before one of my friends at his office. There was a ring tone in his cell. He looked at it and left it to ring and die. After some time there was a call in his land line at his table. He picked up the phone and did not answer and after some time he hung it back in the cradle. While our discussions on general matters were proceeding, he got one more call in his cell phone. At this time he responded the call and informed that he had just entered into his cabin and left the cell in the cabin as he was away meeting the boss. While he was conversing in the cell he also smiled at me. He concluded the call saying he will do whatever possible by him and in a very obliging respectful tone. He turned to me and said that the call is from one of his earlier colleague seeking some favors.He further added that the person is pestering him. However while he was talking to the person I could find out that he had pretended as though he is sincere at his end. In one another occassion, my wife received a call in her cell phone. On seeing the number she did not respond. After a gap of 15 minutes there was one more call and she did not attend. I just asked her why she should not respond. Her immediate reply is that the other person will be talking about her problems especially with her in laws. Soon we received a call in our Land line and my younger daughter took the phone and called Mummy it is ...aunty. Though my wife was showing some gestures to my daughter (with intention to say to the other end that she is not to be found is of no avail.)However I observed while she was talking to her friend, she was so courteous and friendly leaving no sign of her hesitation to talk to her. The above are only two incidents narrated and we would have observed many like this with our friends. In some situations they will be talking so sweet but showing averse in their body language. As video conferencing in cell phone is yet to pick up these persons are saved. But if that invention come we will have more actors in the world.

WHY THIS ENTERTAINMENT. It has become the practice to screen film videos in the luxury buses when you are travelling during the nights.Though some people enjoy the same many are definitely disturbed during the journey especially during nights. The film normally ends during midnight and disturbs the sleep of the passenger. In fact people are reserving their journey through these luxury buses only for a comfortable journey with sleep as they have to attend some important affairs on the next day in the destination. Earlier days it was only the music system in the buses which will make jarring noise disturbing the passengers. Many a time I had requested the bus personal to reduce the volume as I could not plead for stopping the music system. Recently I had a different experience in the train. I was travelling through Lalbagh express in the 2nd class compartment. The sound generated by the train due to the speed clubbed with the sound made by the travelling public and vendors had already made the compartment very uncomfortable. Added to this 4 TV sets were placed in the compartment and the the sound volume was increased to high decibels in order to make the passengers hear the same. The TV set was showing mostly some humour clippings and love duet scenes from both Tamil and Kannada movies. As the train is passing from Karnataka to Tamilnadu the the films are changed to the respective linguistics. The noice pollution is so much that the entire journey was unpleasant and tiresome. Entertainment is turning nowadays to trouble.

Simplicity for Happier Life We find for the past few years,more and more facilities have come to mankind by the inventions of many gadgets. This is has in turn increased the luxuries. But whether this has increased the happiness in the minds of the human being is a big question. There is no satisfaction for most of the people and people are going after more money. In fact in my young days, we were not having more money but the family bondage was much more and happiness is really very much. If we live a simple life, I am sure the happiness will grow manifold. Below are some tips which can simplify your life and may amplify the happiness scale of your life. 1-Avoid getting influenced: Do not try to own something just because your friend or neighbour owns the same. Thing of your requirement and go for the same. Try to love the one you have and do not try to love the one the other man has. 2-Avoid impulse buying: Buy only if it is really increasing your peace of mind. Remember that now a days the standard life of every gadget (phone, tablet, laptop, jewelry etc) is more or less 6 months because of new and new products release by several companies. 3-The 6 months Rule:Generally speaking, anything which has not been used in last 6 months will not be used in next 6 months most likely. Give such things (shoes, garments, toys, mobiles, house hold items) in charity. This will help spreading happiness in society and reducing your space at home. 4-Avoid Credit Cards Usage:Avoid this as much as you can. Debt is a silent stress.Try to pay 100 % of the bill on demand. The 40 days credit is sufficient to recycle. You might develop high BP or sugar because of stress due to credit. Live a credit-free life. Careful spending is always recommended. 5-Reduce too much social gatherings: Stay at home. Spend quality time with your spouse and kids for empowered relationships. You don't have to say yes every time to your friend who is coming to pick you from home to join another late night social get together. 6-Less TV more Books:It is proven that people who watch more movies generate high level of stress. Read quality books to learn wisdom and attain high degree of happiness. Hear some pleasant music/lectures in a calm atmosphere. 7-Spend time with Nature:Instead of going to cinemas and malls repeatedly, spend time in parks. This will relax your brain, body and soul. It has been scientifically proven that it recharges your body to take stress at office if you look at the greenaries. 08-Change your eating habits:Go for simpler and healthier food. Remember, most of the food items in the market are fried which are increasing your cholesterol level silently hence making you a heart patient in the long run!

How to handle a situation when you receive currency from ATM which was not accepted by a banker when the same was remitted.
The reason the notes are not genuine.

This was the situation informed to me by one of our co flat tenant. She had withdrawn in two or three occassions a sum of  Rs50000 from a bank ATM nearer to our flat. She is banking with some other bank.The money was intended for a function. After expending the amount she was left with Rs.20,000/- which she sent through one of relatives to remit to her account.

The SWO at the counter informed the remitter that the Rs.500/- . notes are not genuine. However she was kind enough to return the notes to the remitter with advise to come on the next day along with the account holder who had given the notes.

Panic stricken the elderly lade arrived at my flat and informed the incident and sought my advise as how to resolve the issue avoiding the loss.

On verification of various rules and regulations, it is concluded that onus lies only with the customer who had withdrawn the note from the ATM and not with the bank who had dispensed the note through their ATM . Further   it will be very difficult to prove that the notes were withdrawn from their ATM as it has been done in 3 or more occasions and it will be difficult to pin point in which withdrawal these disputed currency was dispensed.

We also verified the notes with the various parameters specified in the internet and could not come to any conclusions whether they are genuine or not. Especially the year of printing was not available at the bottom in few notes. However one thing is that all these notes had gone on circulation for various times and had lost the crispness.

Everybody was in a fix to come to conclusions  One of the inmates informed that they had similar problem and some how or other they exchanged the note in a mall. But that time the disputed currencies were only 5. Here there are 40 pieces. The meeting ended without any conclusions and the old lady left sadly as to how to dispose the notes and avoid loss for which she is not at all responsible.

Two days later in the afternoon I received a phone call from the lady who informed
"Sir Just now I had remitted these notes in a bank and they have accepted just like that. I am informing you
immediately to share my joy."

It is fact that there are various varients in Rs.500/- currency and one is unable to judge whether the notes are genuine or not. My doubt is that how one SWO refuses the note and other SWO accepts without hesitation.
Doctors, Lawers opinion differs on cases. Similarly Bankers openion also differs in genuine and other notes.