NEGLECT

I find some of my friends after retirement engaged in certain activities just as they were engaged during their career. In one of the visits to my friends house my friend his wife and myself were discussing after lunch. My friend very happily informed that he is not finding any difference on post retirement as he regularly visits his native place which is nearer to Chennai once in two days and meet his relatives and also concentrating on the agricultural activities which he was unable to involve. During his service as an executing in our bank his relatives were looking into these activitis. His only son is very much engaged with his job and seldom comes out of his room looking only at the laptop. He will be reluctantly coming out to take his food after prolonged calls from his mother. The only soul in the house who cares for these persons and appears to have been not valued is my friends wife. When the discussion reached a point where everybody were talking about their commitment the lady informed that no body is considering her as a human being and seldom care for her emotions.She continued saying that her husband is busy with the new job role and the son is very busy in his own activities. She was expecting that after retirement she will be going around for some places of interest and also will be attending most of the social functions both in the family and in the society which she was deprived during the services of her husband. But since her husband is very busy after retirement he finds no time to engage her in her wish and also due to his age he becomes more tired when returning from the work. She in fact could not control her emotions and informed that she is regularly crying for her plight as both the persons in the house are not caring for her emotions. The friend was not at all aware of the feelings of his wife and had taken for granted all her actions as endorsement to his new life style also. His son of course may not be able to understand this as being a young man may be more concerned about this career and life. My friend was surprised on the revelation of his wife. He said it was an eye opener to him. He later informed me that he will have to take care of her and at least he should take her out once in a week and a tour outside once in one or two months. I was very happy on the decision of my friend. When I contacted my friend two months later for some other reason, casually I asked him what are the places he visited during the past two months, he smiled and said yes yes I have to take my wife out. Hope the lady is still neglected.